First comes the app, then comes the phone

Hello all,


Ok, so remember my first post about joining an online dating site and all my mishaps and craziness (if you didn’t get a chance to check it out, read it here )? At the end of that post, I spoke about meeting a good guy.  I was messaged by a Southern gentlemen who relocated to Philadelphia for a job opportunity. We hit it off pretty quickly because we shared  the love for the Walking Dead, live concerts and  reading good books. Since our conversations were going so well online, I decided to ask him for  his phone number. Now I know what you’re thinking… the guy is supposed to make the first move. I tried yall… I really did try, but I just thought he was taking to long to ask. Maybe he didn’t know the right time or didn’t want to seem forceful I don’t know, but I thought it was a good time to move this thing along.

Our first conversation on the phone was great. He’s a jokers. I got to learn more about his background , and really it just felt like I was talking to an old friend. Surprisingly , I felt comfortable speaking with him.  The only weird part is whenever we talk I keep reminding myself that I don’t really know him . Yes, I know his favorite things to do, some of his family background and his job title, but I feel that there’s something missing.  I don’t know if I’m being uptight with this, but I still have some apprehensive due to all the Lifetime movies where the women finds the perfect man online and ends up with a knife to her throat! This is my way of  not getting to caught up in the greatness of him and remembering the reality of the situation.  This is true with dating period, whether it’s online or in person.

For all those who’ve tried online dating, what methods do you use to keep yourself safe while cruising for love online?




  1. Just follow your gut instincts – and I mean really listen to them. Even if you get an inkling of a feeling something is “off” just better to be safe than sorry and tell him you have an emergency and leave the date (make sure you drive your car separate from him too so you can always leave at any time and are not depending on him for a ride). Now I am going to admit that I am terrible at following my own advice, and some of these things I’ve had to learn the hard way. On the flip side of the coin it’s okay to have fun too – if you are having a great time then allow yourself to stay out and have a good time too. Sometimes life is full of too many rules. But your gut is your best friend in dating and every other area of life!

  2. I am glad to hear that you have found someone that is at least good for conversation. Sometimes it can be frustrating with dating when it feels like you are getting nowhere fast. It is kind of exciting though huh? I will be looking forward to hearing how it goes!

    1. That’s great that you have been enjoying the phone conversations. Just continue to try to get to know him. I think it is smart of you to remind yourself that you don’t really know him. I think you should meet up with him sooner than latter. In a public place that you are comfortable with. Tell friends and or family where you are going. Keep it short maybe only an hour just to see if he matches his picture and more importantly what kind of vibe you get from him in person. Take note of if he is on time, how he treats you, how he treats others. Don’t go anywhere or do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing.

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